Is There Life After Success(ion)?

Source:   —  April 23, 2016, at 0:30 AM

“I own a genuine estate company,” she said. “And what do you do?” Paul felt his throat constrict as he drew a fast breath. “I’m….” He hesitated.

The person following to Paul smiled broadly and as said her title she extended her hand. “I own a genuine estate company,” she said. “And what do you do?” Paul felt his throat constrict as he drew a quick breath.

“I’m….” He hesitated. “I work for a manufacturing firm.” She continued, “I’m really looking forward to the speaker tonight, aren’t you?” Paul nodded, feeling slightly disoriented as he excused himself and looked for a table in the back of the room.

As Paul'south mentor I'd challenged him to go to the event and meet people just love he normally would do, only this time I challenged him to not reveal any credentials such as being a chief executive officer, company president or the like.

Paul had been remarkably successful in his industry and had become quite recognizable within his normal circles. He'd arrive to chat with me because he was wise sufficient to realize that he was (at minimum secretly) struggling with the realization that he couldn’t be at the helm of the company forever. Letting the succession of power unfurl wasn’t as simple as he thought it was going to be.

He felt quite certain that he'd all the right people in place, so he found himself asking, “What'south the issue?” For Paul, the issue was as fundamental as it comes. The necessity to keep a succession map in space caused the deep-seated question of identity to rise in the depths of his being.

Imagine for a moment that you're at the altitude of your career and someone asks you who you are. There’s a very excellent chance that love most of us, you'd reply by telling them your title and what you do. But when you think about it your name isn't who you are. It's merely a label that was given to you at birth. Just as surely, what you do isn't who you're (number matter how attached you might be to your success and or title) either.

When we attach our identity to our career and the time comes for us to move on, it’s simple to think that our moment, our hour, our day in the Sunday has passed because we're number longer “someone.” That’s when many industry leaders love Paul are forced to face that most challenging question -- “Who am I?” This question is particularly challenging when, just a brief time ago, the reply seemed so certain and presently we secretly struggle to discover any kind of certainty in an answer. The way we'd seen ourselves -- indeed our very identity -- is number longer readily apparent. Making the shift from being able to declare who we “are” to saying who we “were” frequently gives rise to the instant freezing sweat of knowing that who we were then isn't the truth of who we are now.

We live in an ever-accelerating, technologically-advancing time where what was new becomes elderly at hyper speed. As British philosopher Alan Watts once shared, “We live in a time of unusual uncertainty.” (Shockingly, he said that back in one thousand nine hundred fifty-first). All our new technology impacts not only the way we do business, but also the way we look our usefulness (or lack thereof) in the world. This of course can leave us with a feeling of growing uncertainty.

Is there life after success(ion)?

Having made your tag in the world and having received the accolades and recognition that goes along with doing so is a beautiful wonderful achievement, and creates an exhilarating feeling. However, when we're number longer in that position and the accolades and recognition are going to someone else, it’s simple to perceive love we've lost ourselves. When we number longer stand in the spotlight, it’s simple to perceive love we've somehow become invisible. And worthless.

Create number mistake. How we look ourselves has profound impact on how effective we're in the world. When our identity is number longer as solid as it once was, the impact can be devastating to our self-esteem, self-worth, our finances, and our relationships. It can lead us to ponder if life is even worth living after success(ion). Let me convince you that it is. Here’s the most necessary part. Discovering who you're beyond the identity of who you were is what can and will (if you embrace it) create you a true leader, winner and a champion, both in your own life and in the lives you touch.

To do so, however, means taking three bold steps:

I know it'south shocking but, who you were isn’t who you are. However, there is grand leverage in your history. Your work is to leverage that history into your present time mission, purpose and commitment and lead from where you're rather than where you were. Your life, its ups, its downs, its trials and glory have shaped you, but they've not defined you (unless you've allowed them to). So who are you really? Be willing to reply that and a whole new adventure awaits.

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